Strategy to Help Make Big Decisions!
In life we are faced with many difficult decisions! When we are in a state of indecision, it takes energy and it can cause stress.
We are all empowered to be choicemakers. We may not always like our options, but we always have the power of choice. Even if the choice is the attitude we will embody, or not making a choice at all, is also a choice with consequences. We reap the consequences whether good, bad, or null of our choices.
Here is a technique that has helped me make many decisions and supported my clients in making hard decisions.
When faced with an important choice ask yourself:
Which of your choices/options are motivated by some underlying version of fear (anger, resentment, anxiety, discomfort, hate, etc.)?
Which are motivated by some variation of love (curiosity, hope, optimism, joy, gratitude, etc.)?
Which is more important for you to honor right now? Which will leave you feeling proud of your decision?
I would argue that it is good to make fear-based decisions when our survival is threatened. Our automatic stress response will kick in to keep us safe. We may not even have to access higher level thinking to make a choice in these moments. Getting mugged, scream, run, fight!
And if our survival is not in question, making decisions that are motivated by some variation of love will probably lead you in the right direction. Invited to a party and cannot make it, but worried about upsetting the host? Fear-based decision making might lead you to lie about why you cannot make it. Will you feel proud about lying? Love-based decision making might have you accepting the spirit of the invitation with gratitude and regretting that you will not be able to make it.
Behave in ways that you can feel proud of. Make decisions that you can live with wholeheartedly. If you are struggling to make an important decision, Coriander Living Collective is her to help. Just reach out for a free consultation or schedule an intake online!
